People can lose their self-confidence being unemployed and looking for a job and can find it difficult to become successful in their job search.
If you have high self-confidence , you will generally see yourself in a positive light.
Self-confidence attracts others to you and promotes success where nervousness deters people and makes them lack confidence in your abilities to succeed.
Self-confidence is an important key factor for people to be successful in their lives, yet so many people struggle to find it.
Everyone holds opinions about the type of person that they are. These opinions are at the heart of self-confidence and they affect how you feel about and value yourself.
If you have low self-confidence , your feelings about yourself are often negative. You will focus on your weaknesses and the mistakes that you have made.
Low self-confidence can affect all aspects of your life: your mental health, your relationships and your job.
Everyone has life events such as losing your job, ending a relationship or being bereaved give your confidence a huge knock.
If you are self confident, then will be more resilient to these setbacks that occur in life and recover more quickly.
A lack of self-confidence (without promoting victim thinking) usually stems from your childhood when you were criticised or undermined by your parents or teachers at school.
As part of improving your self-confidence , you will have to remove these negative thoughts and images that you can’t do something or you are not good enough.
“The key is to plan and achieve little steps outside your comfort zone and you will see that these new experiences will improve your confidence to do greater things.”
Also you have accept it is a natural response sometimes to get nervous and it can be a positive thing to improve your performance.
Many professional actors who have done something a thousand times can suffer with stage fright and most times they know it is a natural thing and they get on with the show.
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★ 1) Positive Qualities
Make a list of all the positive qualities that you like about yourself. This exercise will help find your positive qualities and things you are good at especially in your career.
Also this will help you get into the habit of thinking and saying positive things about yourself to yourself. Don't ever put yourself down and stop comparing yourself to others.
★ 2) Exercise
Regular physical activity is good for you and, it has been shown to improve people’s image of themselves and sense of wellbeing.
★ 3) Focus on What You Enjoy
Look for interests that will benefit your career and that you enjoy as when you feel you have some natural ability for an interest, this will improve your self confidence showing you that you are good at some things.
★ 4) Diet and Sleep
Eating a well balanced diet will have a positive impact on your health and will help to improve your happiness. If you do not get enough sleep, negative thoughts are likely to increase which could affect your self-confidence .
★ 5) Look Good
If you look good and professional, you usually feel good too when you are at work. So dress as smart as you can but in your own style.
★ 6) Walk Tall
When you walk fast and you hold yourself high, this will naturally improve your confidence to yourself and others. People will see that you are enthusiastic and motivated about what you are doing.
★ 7) Be a Front Seater
An effective but difficult way at first is to always sit in the front row of meetings, networking events or presentations.
Once you have done this a few times, you will notice that this will have positive impact on your self-confidence.
An added confidence booster in this exercise is to challenge yourself to ask questions and every time you ask a question, it will be a small step for improving your confidence.
★ 8) Use Self-help Books
Although there is some healthy cynicism about the effectiveness of self help books and workshops, there are some good books and motivational speakers out there. Also consideration of using a career coach could be a good step forward.
★ 9) Be Positive
Accept compliments from others and be ready to compliment others also.
These actions will help to refocus you on the positive qualities of yourself and others and hopefully diminish some of the negative thoughts that you have.
Another part of this step is to find positive supportive people who you know and spend time with them.
★ 10) Be Assertive
Don’t allow people to treat you with a lack of respect. Learn and practice to say ‘no’ to unreasonable requests but in a non-confrontational way.